In a couple of weeks, Jeff and I will have been married 20 years.
And I am glad to report that we are happier than ever.
Life is getting busier and faster and sometimes a bit more complicated than ever before, but it really is great.
I think that one of the main reasons we are enjoying this time so much is that we attached ourselves to people who helped us set a strong foundation. The truth is, when we got married neither one of us had any idea what we were doing. Everything was new and often frustrating and we didn’t do a very good job of talking or solving problems or really much of anything.
But then we had two great couple come into our lives.
First it was Brent and Laurie Lamb and then a couple of years later, Steve and Ann Cretin.
Both of these amazing couples spent time with us, helping us figure out what it meant to be married and then what it meant to be good parents. I know that our marriage today was shaped so much by these four dear people.
Now, in the last few years, it seems that we have had the chance to help other young couples and families sort it all out. And we LOVE being able to do this. I can see how all the experiences that God has given us in our lives together help us with these families.
We have been with them through new babies and two-year-old tantrums. We have walked with them through great joy and great sorrow.
I guess what I am trying to say is that is if you are a young momma, find someone who has been where you are and learn from her. And if you are a more “experienced” momma, go find that young one who has the fear in her eyes, and help her know that it is going to be ok.
I’d love to hear how another woman or couple has helped you or you and your husband….